Where do I fit in? Not fitting in anywhere, not being good enough, feeling at a loss for our identity and role in life are all mile markers on the spiritual journey of the gifted. Lower order people have no sense of feeling lost or of any deep need to find something. There is nothing deep within them that needs to be found, realized or expressed. Those of us who have the greatest potential within will always have big emotional obstacles discovering and sharing this greater gift with Humankind. To the searching person this appears as if something is wrong with them because everyone else is happy and well placed in life and they are not. Every gifted person I have ever know has experienced this misperception. And you are one of them.
Okay you may ask, now we are going to try selling you a book or something, every website sells something, right? Not here, we are a free ministry to enlighten and encourage others in all areas of life that cause us to stumble. We stumbled, fell and came into emotional pain, and we did not like it. Life, God or The Loving Mother Universe or whatever you call the creator sent us comfort and guidance when we needed it, and we wish to pass this on for others. Whatever we call the source of all things, is the source we here wish to serve, in serving you.
Let us go back and look at this feeling of not fitting in anywhere and not being good enough and see what this tells us. It tells us that we were made for something and that we were made to specifically fit into a setting or in people’s lives and we are needed. For what we are needed we have yet to find out. To the seedling, the bird does not have any use for it, and that bothers the seedling. The seedling must first grow into a magnificent oak or walnut tree to provide food, shade, and shelter to the bird. In its mature form the seedling can provide all of that. High in the air in safety, the bird can make a nest and create a secure world for its young. In your mature form your presence in others’ worlds will create completeness in them exactly the same way.
Next it tells us that what we are to do, be, or represent is very important in making Humankind and life complete. In other words, it tells us that we matter and our presence in it is of great value. Not knowing where you fit in proves there is a need for you to fit in somewhere. Otherwise, you would not care or need to fit in. This place to fit in needs you as much as you need it. Fitting in makes you complete. You are a lost part of something greater than yourself. You should feel comfort in this truth.
Our past, usually in early childhood was intentionally by God missing one element, that is what we are looking for causing our missing sense of self. Certain spiritual things cannot be taught by parenting no matter how complete the parenting was. Good parenting done right oftentimes leaves us with deep questions which only we as the searcher are to answer. The good parenting accomplished planting the question and the need for this answer. The question is always in the form of ‘who am I,’ and ‘where do I begin to matter’. Translated, that means, ‘what is my gift to Humankind’ and ‘where is my place in which to share it’.
Our first impulse is to find common ground and try to be like everyone else to fit in. There needs to be common ground in areas of community and society, and on lower levels of interaction that is necessary. However, in areas of our deep individual expression that does not work! Being like others to fit in only works if you are with your own kind, and even there you must be your unique self to fit in. People there want your contribution to their group, not a copy of someone else’s contribution.
Our childhood may have left us confused about our spiritual boundaries. We may need to redevelop a sense of our boundaries, so we can tell where the world is to end and we are to begin, which is part of our spiritual growth. Learning our sense of our boundaries is the first step to finding all of ourselves, which is going to lead us to where we will fit in. What is inside our boundaries that we can use to discover ourselves? We consist of more than being a person floating in a sea of randomness. We have a life path and God’s plan for us to find already laid out for us. This life plan and path is part of who we are and always were. Inside our boundaries as a person there are tools we must learn to use to be a complete person. Using these tools, we can connect with who we are inwardly and knowing that we can see our path to where we are supposed to go.
These are the seven tools or seven birthrights we all have: Seeing things through our own eyes, feeling our own feelings, thinking our own thoughts, making our own choices, then more inwardly are imagining our own dreams, working on our own dreams, lastly sharing our own dreams with Humankind. Using these tools and knowing our life path is complete with our destination in our future will lead us to it. This brings up the last thing to help us find where we are to fit in, and that thing is faith. Knowing you are needed somewhere, you are valuable, and you have a place to live out your value requires faith. Have faith in these things, because they are true. As you consciously practice using your seven tools of your mind, they will strengthen your heart and your faith will grow. As your faith grows, your ability to be fully your authentic self in your seven acts or tools will become even stronger. Being your authentic self will help you see your path. Being your authentic self will help others like you to see you and your life’s setting will come to you. It is not just a matter of you finding it, it is also a matter of it finding and coming to you as well. Being your fullest truest self will bring it all together, I promise.
Just for the record, this is an emotional and spiritual encouragement ministry. We are selling nothing here and are not at the present time even set up to take donations, and probably never will. Your healed life is our reward enough, and we are very pleased with that. If you want to, please share your strength with others in your future so our nurturing can live on.