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The fear of not being accepted can tell us much. It can tell us about ourselves, and it can tell us all about our present environment as well. Moreover, it tells us most of all about the spiritual journey we are just now discovering on which we are. Everything about us being human has a spiritual context to it, and that is good.
If we have the fear of not being accepted, that means at some point we have experienced rejection and indifference previously. We have experienced something very painful, and we cannot continue living in an emotional world of just being a shadow, an audience to the world, with nobody, no setting to notice us and see us for who we are. We need an audience also. The first impression we have is that we are inferior, rejectable, and of no value as a person. Plain people do not matter and are worthless. Multiple rejections will only reinforce this deceiving lie.
The truth is we are very valuable, and we will be accepted because we are deeply needed by someone in some setting out there. You cannot see your value or your gifts yet, but you soon will. All our past experiences are not evidence of our inferiority as we see them to be, they are events that are shaping our character and giving us our life’s values. These experiences and values learned from them are in fact making us into a unique person which to someone or some setting we will be valuable. That setting is in your future.
On the spectrum of Humankind, those of lesser or no character, who will never advance beyond the criminal or reptilian level of living, have no such emotional needs, for they do not care. They are parasites and always will be. On the other end of the spectrum, those who possess greater potential to develop often have much longer journeys to reach fulfillment spiritually. That is because it takes longer to graduate college or a military academy than it does to graduate elementary school. Also, those with greater value spiritually often have very specific spiritual gifts for only the setting they alone can fill.
The sea of Humankind is vast. When you are young, then becoming a teenager, you leave the safe harbor of your family of origin. For many of us, these supposedly safe nurturing harbors were not so safe, and not so complete or nurturing. They were full of input that was not so acceptable of us and not recognizing our gifts and talents. These hostile home settings often ignore our presence which tells us we are a shadow and not a person. We then must leave home with the same spiritual need of recognition of our inner beauty that we had when we were born, the spiritual need unmet.
So now we look at the open sea of Humankind with an even greater burden, which is to fit in and be accepted first, without fully knowing who we are spiritually and needing to find our spiritual value as well. This is like going shopping for shoes without knowing what your shoe size is or what kind of footwear for which you are shopping. That is too many variables.
There is another player in your deep need to be accepted. Not being aware of this player is fueling your great fear of not being accepted. This player is your life plan itself. We are not just born a random generic person born into a vast sea of randomness and chaos. This is as it seems to you so far. We are far more than just a generic person. We are created to be a certain way, look at life a certain way, with abilities to do something no one else can do.
Moreover, our life and its life path we are to find, do have a purpose with an intention behind it all. If you look at your childhood, and what was missing in it, that is what is present and waiting in your future to find and enjoy. Somehow, what was missing in your past is what you are to share joyously with others in your future. The fact it was missing was to show you its importance and be part of the message your life is to bring to those who need you in your future.
Even the fact of being previously rejected and ignored, misunderstood, is part of your spiritual maturing. That was to show you the importance of feeling accepted, possibly helping others understand this themselves. You are being spiritually trained to be a guide in the very area you previously needed a guide so you can comfort others and help them find themselves.
Your spiritual life path has one last characteristic, and that characteristic is timing and seasons. Remember we shared our life has a purpose and an intention behind it? That involves a planting season, a growing season, and at the end, a time of harvest and completion. Your life will manifest those same characteristics as well. Do not change who you are to be accepted where you are, that is the worst mistake of all. That is killing your identity to get acceptance from people with which you have nothing in common.
To find your place in the sun where you will be accepted and welcomed, you need to showcase who you are, and here is how to do this:
See things through your own eyes (and not through another person’s or setting’s eyes).
Feel your own feelings (and not through other’s or some ideology or religion’s feelings).
Think your own thoughts.
Make your own choices and take full responsibility for them.
As you gain skill in doing these four lower-level spiritual acts which we call spiritual birthrights, you will venture inward into yourself with these next three, which create the harvest time for your life in later years.
These are:
Find your dreams, talents, interests, passions, skills, gifts (or whatever other form you see them).
Pursue, build, develop these dreams, talents, skills, gifts. This will lead your life to a setting and others like yourself. There you will find your place in the sun where finally, your acceptance will be found.
Joyously share your dream, talent, skill, or gift with all Humankind to make Humankind complete. This at last will create the harvest time of your life.
Just for the record, this is an emotional and spiritual encouragement ministry. We are selling nothing here and are not at the present time even set up to take donations, and probably never will. Your healed life is our reward enough, and we are very pleased with that. If you want to, please share your strength with others in your future so our nurturing can live on.