I need help finding myself is an experience that shows the need for love and emotional support. Those two things everyone has a right to, but many have been denied them. Under ideal circumstances, attention from our mothers and fathers in childhood gives us a sense of our own importance in our lives as we develop. Sadly, for many there are no loving parents present in our lives long enough to help us mature emotionally. When we do not have them to focus on us to help us focus on ourselves enough, that forces us to focus more on the outside world, and not enough on our presence in it. When we are forced to grow up needing adequate love and nurturing, we acquire the false perspective that we are a shadow, and not a person. We then incorrectly see ourselves as a dry well needing water to fill us, and we are not a source of anything good of value to anyone or anything. When that happens, we lose all concept of having any individuality and significance at all. Our individuality is where our sense of value of who we are as a person exists. Without that we in essence do not exist as a person. If we cannot see that we have a value, then we cannot see our difference, our individuality which is who we truly are.
Do not give up hope, although you may feel like it sometimes. We would not be defining a problem if we did not have an answer, a solution for you to try. We do not sell anything here, we are a free ministry with no affiliate sales relationships with any products, nor do we accept donations. This ministry is funded entirely out of our private household to bring comfort to Humankind.
In your parenting, there is the nurturing act of a loving parent showing the outside world to you, so you understand what is out there. A more important nurturing act along with this, is the loving parent showing you your importance as a participant in the world so you can properly enter it. Parenting is the act of showing you the world, but more importantly showing you your importance as a person who is to enter it. Those two things must happen together, the world’s importance, and your importance as a person in it and they must balance.
Your difference is your value. When someone says about you, ‘That is Jim, he likes to draw and build things out of old wood’. That tells you that you have permission to see things through your own eyes as a unique and different person. You are one that is passionate about drawing and building things out of rustic wood that looks like they came from the old west.
Describe yourself in as many ways as you can think of, that make you different from everyone else. Your differences are not faults or weaknesses, they are sacred characteristics to be honored, embellished and enhanced. Once you have seen yourself as different and unique, which is what good parenting in your childhood would have done, this will open the door for you to embrace your seven spiritual birthrights. Once you see yourself as different and unique, then you can start looking at the world through the eyes of this newly discovered unique person. How does Jim, the one who likes to draw and build things out of old wood, see the world, as he looks through his own eyes and not somebody else’s eyes?
In a fully nurtured childhood, we would learn much about the outside world, and equally we would learn just as much about our difference, our uniqueness as we would grow up in it. Those two things would marry in interaction by our seven spiritual birthrights to help us find ourselves, as we merge into it as an adult. First, acknowledge you are important, you are needed, and lastly you belong. Once you have affirmed your value, then you can start describing what characteristics are valuable, such as you are Jim, you like to draw and make things out of old wood. From there you will start your internal spiritual life breathing. The first spiritual birthright is seeing things through your own eyes, and not someone or some settings eyes. When you do that the second spiritual breath you will do is to feel your own feelings, and not someone else’s feelings. The next breath spiritually is thinking your own thoughts, and lastly is making your own choices. All this will be done through the eyes of Jim, the one who likes to draw and build things out of old wood.
As this happens, we will journey spiritually deeper inward to imagining our own dreams, or discovering our own talents, like drawing and building things out of old wood. Then we will build our lives on our talents, interests we have embraced as a dream, and lastly, we will joyously share with all Humankind our dreams that we will have built so everyone can benefit by what we have done.
Will we draw a wooden airplane like the Wright Brothers did at Kitty Hawk, North Carolina, or build an ancient Viking sailing vessel from ancient Viking days in England? No one knows, but Jim, the one who likes to draw and build things out of old wood. Finding yourself may not be just as someone doing something. Very few dreams and gifts have to do with professions or stations of employment. They are often settings or environments we want to experience, like living in Alaska racing sled dogs or in Hawaii surfing.
It may be someone needing something, like a girl wanting to have a loving home full time and raise a family in the comfort and protection of a hardworking husband. To have that as a dream one must know they deserve it and are worthy of it. If it is in your nature and is part of your gift and talent as a dream, then you are needed to do that somewhere in your future. Life needs you to be your gifted self somewhere just as much as you need life. Being different does not make you an outcast, for somewhere there are other different people like you for you to join. When you find your difference, your talent, then you find both your world awaiting and you find yourself.
Just for the record, this is an emotional and spiritual encouragement ministry. We are selling nothing here and are not at the present time even set up to take donations, and probably never will. Your healed life is our reward enough, and we are very pleased with that. If you want to, please share your strength with others in your future so our nurturing can live on.