If the subject regarding self esteem has come up on your radar, there is much good going on spiritually in your life. Researching for yourself or a loved one shows growth is happening. Here we will offer insight that we think is relevant from our New Age Christian perspective. Just for the record, we are not selling anything. We wish to enlighten you spiritually outside of religion. You do not need organized religion to find your highest self. Conformity to a religion only serves that religion in most cases.
The need to understand how to have self esteem means for you or another person, something has happened that has put it in question. This then brings up the matter of self esteem’s importance. Having self esteem, which is a necessary characteristic for us to function fully in our lives can be damaged by certain types of events or settings. If left alone then we will travel through life damaged and unable to fulfill the purpose God intended for us to fulfill. Our self esteem is the permission, and the energy God gives us to be fully us. We cannot be fully ourselves if we do not feel the permission to be so.
It is important to understand that we are not just a person drifting randomly in this vast sea of humanity like a piece of seaweed. We were placed here in Humankind at an exact time and place, with specific characteristics we were born with, to find and perform an exact role. Our lives all have a purpose. Getting back to the damaging events or settings we mentioned that have questioned our self esteem and the importance of having it, there is a purpose behind all this as well. Damaging settings or events, like having failed at something, or not having a loving parent to nurture us, all have a purpose also, and it is all connected.
Our first impression regarding something that was missing in our lives, is that we were not good enough and did not deserve it as much as those who had it, so our lack was justified. Likewise, if we failed at something, such as participation in band or sports or dating when in school we again feel we were not as good as others who did well at it, so again our failure was justified. If left alone, this changes our view of our self to a misfit, causing us to make ourselves an outcast in life. And that is the first part of this, but there is a second part, a finish to the story of you that can make this a happy ending.
There is a lot that goes on in the building of a person into their fullest selves. Especially those who have deep feelings and much spiritual insight God wants developed. It takes much more to create a massive building than it does to create a small wooden shed. In matters of people, this not only includes physical things like food, shelter, rest, but emotional developments that need to be created also. For those of greater potential, having a strong self esteem also means understanding exactly what self esteem is and its role in our lives.
This work is accomplished by experiencing bad things that damaged our self esteem at first, then making it stronger than before afterwards to finish it. When we examine our damaged part, we gain understanding of ourselves and learn more about the magic things of us. In other words, we are like a vehicle learning about all its mechanical parts so we can fix ourselves, and more than that, learn where we function best as a vehicle, so we can find the right setting where we do best. Some vehicles are trucks, capable of carrying massive amounts of weight. Others of us are airplanes capable of flying many people at high speeds to faraway destinations all over the world. Still others of us are family cars designed to serve one family in all their transportation needs.
The things that damaged us, causing us to look at what is self esteem are part of our intended life path we mentioned earlier. The damaging things were events, settings or needs which were never filled. They took away our self esteem and we need strong self esteem to be our fullest selves. The road we walked that took our self esteem away is the same road we will go down again and this time it will lead us to how to have our necessary strong self esteem.
Every person is good at something. Every person is needed somewhere by others doing what we are very good at doing. Every person is valuable, important and needed somewhere. Your past life experiences have been preparation to make you best at doing something. There are a lot of generalities here, but they fit precisely into your life somehow.
Life’s bad experiences create a need for personal recognition. This created need is by God’s design because it is to help us find our proper place. Finding our place where we can rightly get the personal recognition will restore our self esteem. Being out of place starting out in life makes us an audience to everyone else, misleading us into thinking we are a shadow and not a person. The point life is trying to make is we are not a shadow, and we deserve better.
Somewhere in your past is a skill, interest, or setting where it connected deeply with you. It would have been something you loved to learn about, do, or become. When you find it that will be part of who you are, and there is the setting in life somewhere to match it to build your self esteem. It may be as simple as being a type of person you always wanted to be. You already are that type of person, only you have not found the right social group into which to express yourself.
If you focus long enough on what is on the inside, you can over time get a clear picture of what your uniqueness is. When you embrace that, it will be much easier to find a setting to match in your outer world what is exactly in your inner world. It does not have to be a vocation and a way to make a living, it can be the type of person you are in relationships with others. Women for example are many times nurturers and excellent mothers and caregivers. That would mean there is a setting out there that needs a nurturing, mothering, caregiving person in it. This necessary setting could either be as a nurse, or as a stay-at-home spouse caring for others who are needful. Your gift can be found in relationships, and your place in life in them, not necessarily in employment.
The bottom line in how to have self esteem is to find what it is that makes you different and unique. For in that is found what it is that makes you valuable. Normally good parents do that by pointing these things out to you, and encouraging you along those lines such as art, music, sports or other things. Not all have the blessing of having good parents when young. In their absence we must nurture ourselves as replacement. Affirming your characteristics we talked about here as valuable will help you find the setting that mirrors back your value to you by needing you. Self esteem and pride are not just for the exceptional and celebrities, they are the birthright of everyone. You not only have the right to find and be you, but also to be proud of who you are, God certainly is!
Just for the record, this is an emotional and spiritual encouragement ministry. We are selling nothing here and are not at the present time even set up to take donations, and probably never will. Your healed life is our reward enough, and we are very pleased with that. If you want to, please share your strength with others in your future so our nurturing can live on.